Connecting Communication

Connecting Communication

“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said” – Peter Drucker


There is someone in your life that you have broken connection. Could be the loved one you are caring for, or your spouse, children, parent or close friend. Think back to when you enjoyed relating to that person. What were you points of connection? At what level did you connect – emotional, physical, intellectually or spiritual?


No matter what the level, for any form of communication to thrive, it has to be nurtured. That means not just the message but also the sentiment has to be cultivated to sustain a thriving relationship. A support relationship is when it is 2-way. Where there is more listening than expressing. However, life does not always afford such luxuries.


So, what do you do when it is only one way? No matter if you are the sender or the receiver of communication, do it with grace. Speak with respect and hope that your words land softly on a tender heart. If you are the receiver, take what’s said with grace and humility. Listen and key in on the heart of what’s expressed.


Hope this helps and encourages. If you have more thoughts on this matter, I would love to hear your comments. Please share if this has blessed and inspired you.


Questions to think about:

What is your best style of connecting – emotionally, physically, intellectually or spiritually?

What do you usually talk about?

Do you talk at or speak with your loved one?

What do signs indicate that you’re relating to your loved one?

Is the communication mutual? Is there a back and forth of understanding?

Do you seek to understand before you are understood?

In what way do you nurture the relationship and things you talk about?

Does the other person know that that you cherish what they say?

What steps can you take today to enhance the way you communicate?

Ask these questions and take action today.



Stars can’t shine without darkness

Stars can’t shine without darkness

Everyone has a level of depression they experience. Some are milder than others. I have found that when faced with things that are out of my control, I am prone to the effect of depression. I have family and friends who struggle with clinical depression, and when it comes to them dealing with day to day life, they require assistance, via counseling and medication. Which there is nothing wrong with and I commend others who stepped up to the responsibility of addressing their personal health.


On the path of functional and a Courageous Caregiver, it’s not easy walking through the dark corridors, trying to figure out what to do and how to do it. The weight can be overwhelming at times. So, let me share with you a few things of value that have aided me in dealing with my own depression.


  1. Gratitude – I practice at a high level, an attitude fo gratitude. I mean I give thanks for everything. The rain and the sunshine. The warmth and the snow. I demand and chose to find the good in my day and gave thanks for all it may offer. It’s empowering to have an overcoming mentality.
  2. Matter – My presence and my being matters to the day and situation. I was placed here for a reason, and I seek to explore what that means. Every day is class time for me and my events are my classroom. My education and application make a difference.
  3. Light – Some people are so negative that they only develop in the dark. Not I. I don’t subscribe to that way of thinking. I treat every day, and every place I’m sent as a calling. I have love and light that shines within and radiates out. The love that I bring transforms my dark situations into illuminated truth. I look at the lighter side of life, and I keep pressing toward the light.

I hope these few tips help you. Stay tuned and I will bring you more shortly. Thanks for checking this out.


Questions to think about:

Do you have a strategy with how you deal with your down moments?

Are you aware when you’re emotionally down moments creep in on you?

Do you have a short list of people you can call when you feel down or overwhelmed?

Are you engaged in REALLY living your life?

Are you seeking the meaning of your life? Do you see your value?

Ask these questions and take action today.



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Give, Care, Share, Shape!

Give, Care, Share, Shape!

“One Person caring about another represents life’s greatest value.” – Jim Rohn


For most of us, we’re holding the hands of the one that once held you. Cherish that moment and see it for what it is. Honor! It takes a mature spirit to see the value of honoring another’s life and the value they brought to this world. Every life has a story that goes into the building block of the world we live. The way that we choose to step up and care for those that are unable to care for themselves speaks volumes and shapes the legacy of how history will view our generation.

The theme is to think of one’s self and think cynically about humanity and look out for number 1. But real awareness will tell you that this is only one view or weaker way of looking at life. A stronger person will see and believe each day, and in every way, they can make a real difference in life and the world around them. Simply by choosing to care. Along with being bold and brave enough to invest in that brighter future by giving, giving of one’s self in the way of time, talent and skills. If you have answered the call and took the time to look into the eyes of your fellow man and communicate that they matter and that you care, then you have taken the first step to moving us all to a better world. THANKS!


Questions to think about:

How does it make you feel when you engage in care for someone?

Do you understand the value you bring to another person life?

Do you love and respect the person under your care? If not, why not?

Are you patient with the person under your care?

What motivates you to care like you do every day?

Do you know how much time you put in daily on the care you actively provide?

Do you feel like you are in the right place (mentally, physically, emotional, etc.) with the person you are caring for?

Ask these questions and take action today.




Courage is Fear Concurred


Courage is Fear Concurred

When we hear the word “Courage,” it’s easy to think of grand moments of a hero rising to the call and taking action, yet in reality, courage in its essence came from those that were worn, beaten tired and on facing odds where it was obvious they would lose. They chose to choke down the pain and fear and focus on the task at hand. They opted to rise one more time than the times the got knocked down. They chose to stand against the lie that life was saying about them and their circumstances. I think of peoples such as Harriet Tubman, who led hundreds of former slaves to freedom on the underground railroad. Martin Luther King Jr, who fought for civil rights and for all men to have equal treatment. Police, firefighters and citizens who rushed into a burning building to save lives on September 11, 2001; or Military personnel and their families defending the freedom of the United States.


Central to my cause are the heroes that engage in home health care. For many, this was not a part of your life plan. Many are unequipped and unqualified for the challenge. The call is filled with physically, mentally, emotional and financial challenges that are outside of your capabilities. But you chose to grit it out, stand and fight. That is what courage is all about, knowing what lay ahead could hurt you, but wanting to face it anyway. I commend you and stand with you, and encourage you to stay the fight. Don’t lose hope. Don’t quite. You have a host of like-minded people that stand with you and fighting along side you. Let me leave you with this powerful quote that shapes who we are as we stand for humanity. “There is no higher calling than to lay down ones on life for their fellow man.”


Questions to think about:

What or who do I fear?

What is the area of my life where fear causes anxiety?

Who are other courageous people I can connect with that can aid and direct me with what I am facing?

What skills am I lacking that is causing me anxiety?

Am I making more out of the situation than I should?

Am I willing to ask for help?

Ask these questions and take action today.